3 October 2017

Let's Talk Confidence

I often hear the term confidence is key and think a lot of people struggle to either understand it or struggle to gain it. So, with that in mind, I thought I'd have a little heart to heart to you all about self-love and having confidence in being yourself. As a young woman, I would be lying if I said that there weren't times that I wasn't confident in myself. 

When I was younger, I was teased about my hair- my eyebrows, arms, legs (as I have very dark hair) and sometimes my height, since I was very tall at a young age. I used to be very self-conscious about it and used to get very upset. Now I'm older I have learned a couple of things:

1.) Nine times out of ten the things you are self-conscious about are nothing of the sort and are often very small things. Like my legs, if they bother you that much then they can easily be sorted. 

2.) And, if someone is teasing you about something, it is often because they are lacking in self-confidence themselves and are trying to take it out on someone else by picking on the smallest thing.

Since I was a very tiny little girl I have had very curly, fine hair. When I was younger I would always want it to be straighter and I'm not even sure why. But as I've gotten older, with the help of my family and friends, I have started to appreciate just how awesome my hair really is. As my dad always tells me- many people would pay a lot of money, or spend a lot of time to get my hair. So now I'm like: I love my hair! 

I guess what I'm really trying to say is that it is completely normal to have insecurities and to have parts of yourself you may not like. We often compare ourselves, especially as girls, to women we see on tv or in magazines, when in fact they have more than likely to be photoshopped to no longer look like what they naturally do. 

If I could tell my 15/16-year-old self-anything it would be to just be you. Don't take so much notice as to what others think. Some very good advice that I learned from the wonderful Dr Sauss is that: those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. So do what makes you happy, not what you think will make others happy and don't listen to those who are trying to drag you down, they don't matter. You go do you, girl and love doing it- you unique. Embrace it. 

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